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In recent weeks, we've noticed that the tone on the forum has taken a sharply critical turn, and we'd like to ask for everyone's help in fixing it.

KIC is all about sharing our appreciation for the park and the industry, and we want to keep the discussion as open to as many opinions as possible. At the same time, snarky comments make the forum less fun to read and contribute to. It's getting old, and we need it to stop.

Specifically, we're asking that critical comments be respectful; sarcasm and exaggeration should be avoided. Ideally, tell the park how they should improve; Kings Island is always looking for feedback here and on social media. Honest opinions and experiences, both positive and negative, are always welcome to be shared here.

If you see posts that are creating an overly negative tone, reminding the poster to keep it constructive and/or using the "Report" button would be most appreciated. Thanks everyone for your attention to this matter.

-Your KIC mods

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I will stop posting my bits in the decoding topic and post what I need to here.  I think there is a lot of mistreatment of members on the forum in that thread.  People keep throwing around descriptions that people are 'negative', even when bringing up simple criticisms.  Just because we cover a 'fun' topic such as amusement parks doesn't omit the site from this kind of stuff happening.  Throwing around a blanket statement that people are being 'negative' with no context is hurtful.  Its dismissive of those who are bringing up criticisms and problems they see and the people throwing it around are just brushing it aside as if just labeling people as 'negative' is in and of itself a solution.  If you can't take the time to say why people are being overly negative (no matter how obvious it may seem to you) or get reduced to smearing others, then you either don't have an argument, you are just being lazy in assuming people understand, or simply don't care.  Quit pretending that everything is meant to be positive (even somewhere as quaint as an amusement park fan site) when there is stuff happening that requires more nuance to deal with.   Its an incredibly naive way to deal with people who are bringing up subjects within a topic that aren't always in the flow of what most members are veering towards.  Every topic can have that happen, even ones people think are supposed to be positive.  All of that is ruined if we aren't treating each other well.   Not everything is black and white, or in this case, positive and negative.  There's a grey area people aren't addressing.  Positivity can't be forced.  Criticism can be used in a positive way to improve something as well (just ask any musician including yours truly).  Its very short sighted to see a post you may not like and give a knee jerk reaction and start accusing people of things (admittedly, I tend to do that, too, but at least I'm acknowledging it and make that better).  Emotions are hard to convey over the internet which is why context is important.    

Also of note is the issue of gaslighting, and I'll use my recent spat as an example.  The original poster accused me of saying there wasn't any info on the ride name trademarks, even though he quoted me word for word where I said nothing of the sort, nor have I ever said or eluded to that kind of suggestion.   That's taking my words out of context and misrepresenting me of what I actually said.  That kind of talk is damaging to people.   It makes people second guess themselves into thinking that they didn't really say what they know they said, despite obvious evidence they did (which, on an internet forum, is easily fact-check-able).  Its just as bad, if not worse, as stating information and not citing a source, IMO, especially because you're hurting someone else in the process.  

I don't care if you think I'm overreacting. I don't care if you think I'm negative.  I'm also very aware of my flaws.  I'm just done just taking and seeing this kind of crap go on with no one acknowledging it.  I want this site to do as well as the next member, I've made a lot of good friends here and I still enjoy talking about Kings Island, amusement parks, and the like and its something to take my mind off of some more serious matters I have to deal with in everyday life which I have to think about all the time otherwise.  But I'm not going to stand for this mistreatment of members and the misuse and misinterpretations of being critical.    

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Thank you for sharing that @silver2005, and I'm sorry about you getting gaslighted. However, I would like to mention, and I hope you don't get mad at me for this, that I sort of felt like your post above is a little bit critical.

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Just to clarify, the intention with this thread isn't to discourage critical posts. The request is merely that criticism is respectful, without sarcasm or exaggeration.

Silver's point is that criticism should also be accurate. When another user replied to one of his posts, they got what he said about Cedar Fair trademarks wrong. This was likely inadvertent with all the conversations going on in the decoding thread, but it's a good reminder to always check your facts if you're going to be critical.

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11 hours ago, malem said:

Silver's point is that criticism should also be accurate. When another user replied to one of his posts, they got what he said about Cedar Fair trademarks wrong. This was likely inadvertent with all the conversations going on in the decoding thread, but it's a good reminder to always check your facts if you're going to be critical.

I agree with this sentiment, but I think the term "gaslighting" is getting thrown around a little too swiftly here. I am going to get a little personal here, but I feel like I have to in order to elaborate my point. 

I was gaslighted in a relationship for 4 years. I don't think she meant to do it, but this person broke me down, made me feel like the bad guy when they did something wrong (including cheating), controlled others' image of me, told me things like her friends hated me, made me feel powerless and in constant need of her approval. When I did something wrong, she badgered me about it to the point where her voice would be stuck in my head attacking me about it in a repetitive loop. People would ask why I didn't leave and it was because I didn't have the courage to. I felt like I needed her, that I depended on her, that I was nothing without her. When we would split, I would gradually start to become whole again, but she would come back, and the cycle would start again. 

It is literal mental abuse, something that can be gradual and when you come out of it, you no longer feel like a whole person, if you even know who you are anymore. It is terrible and frankly, I am not sure if I will ever be in another relationship because of that experience. 

As someone who doesn't know much about the amusement park industry (and actually liked the Paramount years, at least at first), I am often "corrected." But in those moments, I never feel anything near what I felt in that relationship. 

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Gaslighting is very serious, both in the action & the accusation.

I am not trying to be unempathetic for those who have been gaslighted but using "gaslighting" in the example given here takes away from the seriousness of the true action.  The literal action typically surrounds a very personal relationship.

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